Saturday, August 27, 2005

the 10 Tips to win the love of your husband

I got this from the E-mail, read it plz :)

Read Now the 10 Tips to win the love of your husband by

Muhammad AlShareef

1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.

Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.

2. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect..

3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him..

4. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends.".

5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire..

6. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh..

7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband..

8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband..

9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him..

10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband..


Now back to me again :

What is that nonesense ???!!!! does they think that is what matters for the husbands ?

I don't say that all of them are wrong, some of them are right, but the most important things are totally missing!!

Where is the order to share life with him, to try to think how he think and what is important to him and try to give it a shot and make it what is important to you too !!!

Where is the order to share your life with him, to talk to him, discuss things with him, live with him!!!!

That is just a sample, the previous point is so important, a man seeks a friend first in home, if he can't find him, he seeks him on the cafe, and mostly he finds him and stop to care for home anymore

man is not in need for a beautiful furniture piece or a clown to make him laugh when he is upset, he needs someone to share life with him, with all the meaning of sharing life like in sweet and sour, in good and bad times to understand, listen and love him.

I love the stuff they say in the USA in the marriage when the priest talks to each of them and ask him a few questions that represent the soul of the real marriage, or say how it should be.

life is not that materialistic, it has other sides too, we have to take care that very little emotional and conceptual details are much more important than a southand materialistic thing in the relation between a married couple

4 comments:

Mai Mohamed Rizk said...

I agree with you 100%. this is not what marriage is about, not what Islam is about & not what humanity is about. what you read in this mail is a reflection of how the majority -of course lead by the media- thinks of the relationship between men & women. they treat women as mere bodies for pleasure & treat men as a donkey who will definitely fall into the trap of the carrot & follow it brainlessly (I'm sorry to use this metaphor, this is not to offend anybody wallahi, this is just to describe the situation). I hate this wallahi. this is a degradation for both sides of the human race. this supposes that women are good for nothing but materialistic pleasure & men are nothing but weak brainless creatures that would follow this "carrot" thoughtlessly. moreover, religions are being used here as a tool to inforce the superficiality & intellectual suppression that everybody is experiencing everywhere these days. those who were being addressd here are not women, those who were being talked about are not men & the tool -Islam- that was used here is very different from what was mentioned in this mail. this mail is a very clear example of how humanity & beliefs are disgraced these days. it's a pitty.
Mai Rizk
mima_rizk@yahoo.com

free soul said...

Welcome on my blog,

What the real shocking thing is, this mail was sent on the public group of the faculty of engineering, communication and electronics dept, those are the graduated students this year, they are not kids and they should have very mature minds, it was sent by a girl and another man of our students confirmed the mail and thanked her for sending those useful informatinon that is "useful for men and women" as he said !!!

Anonymous said...

AsSalam Alaikum

Here are the Complete stuff of Muhammad al shareef
http://abdurrahman.org/scholars/MuhammadAlShareef.html
-his complete article list - downloadable
-his audio - downloadable

similarly

http://abdurrahman.org/scholars/BilalPhilips.html
http://abdurrahman.org/scholars/YahyaIbrahim.html
http://abdurrahman.org/scholars/YasirQadhi.html

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